32 People Share The Worst Things Their Partner Ever Did To Them
We’ve all had ups and downs in a relationship. For some of us though, the downs were the lowest of the low, way more than the ups. Fate is bound to bring all sorts of people your way once you decide to enter into the dating game. And, is there any true way to filter the good ones or rather, the ones actually meant for you?
On this episode of Afrogist, we had 32 random individuals tell us the worst things a partner has ever done to them in a relationship. Enjoy!
“He often lied to me that he was going on a prayer retreat with his mom one weekend every month. I later found out that he had been struggling with depression for five years and he took those times out to be alone. It hurt that he was always smiling in front of me when he was dying inside.
It hurt even more when he later confessed that he had lied about graduating from structural engineering, because he dropped out in his third year. Then he topped it off by telling me he was trying to take jamb form again. When I was in my finals and thinking about planning my future with my partner that was already a graduate.
He said it was why he had been battling with depression and he couldn’t open up.
I’d never felt so hurt in my life.”
Alias 007 (F)
Lagos, Nigeria
“He ghosted me and turned up suddenly with a new girlfriend.
We weren’t dating yet at the time (we were in the talking phase) but I thought we liked each other. Anyway… it took me about three years to forgive him, we became friends and started dating a year later.”
Spandex (F)
Lagos, Nigeria
“Emotionally abuse me, physically abuse me, blackmail.”
Brenda (F)
Nigeria
“Lied to me about something obvious.”
Matt (M)
Nigeria
“Hmmm where do I begin.. my partner would buy chocolate and not cut for me.”
Kenchi (M)
“Said I made him angry so he went ahead to sleep with his girl best friend to calm down.. then said it was my fault 😅😅”
Raven (F)
“Told me I wasn’t doing enough even though I was doing my best at the time.”
Monkey the Luffy (M)
BY, Nigeria
“He stopped communicating and it was a bit of a hard time.”
Iheoma (F)
Abuja
“He was fond of shutting me out whenever he was going through difficult times… He doesn’t call, no text. He doesn’t pick mine either.
It was bad and painful.”
Precious (F)
Nigeria
“He’d read my messages while I was asleep. And even open unread messages. Never let me hang out with my friends and was too insecure to a fault. He lied to me countless times and made a mockery of my intelligence.”
Choice (F)
“Acted like she didn’t know me at a public function.”
Mr Man (M)
“Not my current partner. He’s an ex now. This human was consistently cheating on me with his married ‘bestie’.”
Sheila (F)
Kogi State
“I told him I couldn’t handle alcohol, and he used it to his advantage. He kept pressuring me to take another sip, and after only a few glasses, I was tipsy. Then he had his way. I haven’t been able to shake it off my mind since.”
Ella (F)
Ibadan
“My last girlfriend and I had known each other for about 4 years. So I finally popped the question and she said yes (no banter, no “I’ll think about it”).
So there I was happy till her main man found out about us and then created a group with her, me and the 5 other guys she was dating. Then he uploaded screenshots of my chats with her and her chats with the other guys and he himself in the group.
Man I was devastated and so was she cause he also added her siblings and the few family members he knew.
She broke up with all of them and tried to keep me so I confronted her and she was like ‘She Never Loved ME, she was just scared she’d lose me if she said NO. But she really cares about me from the bottom of her heart’.
Even though it felt like the truth, I can’t believe a thing she says anymore. To make matters worse, all of her hot and sexy female friends have been finding their way into my DeeHems and I can’t see it as a coincidence anymore.”
Chibuike (M)
Jos
“We both had friends who were also dating each other, we met them separately and it turned out they were dating. She got close to the guy and I got close to the girl. Long story short, they started having intimate moments while I was on the other side, being faithful to my relationship.”
Reggie (M)
Benin City
“Never had a real partner. It was always all about them. I never really had a strong connection with someone. We were all just placeholders living in an uninspiring toxic and parasitic existence. A lack of oxygen clouded the air when we were both present in the same space. It was always out of duty.
What’s the worst thing my partner has ever done?
Not letting me go sooner. Still clinging for hope where there was none. She wanted to keep feeding off my essence, till there was nothing left.
I escaped.”
The escapist (M)
Lagos State
“So I went to see her one day, I had to leave my campus that was quite far and came to see her… and she was just giving me cold vibes after I had arrived and waited some time to see her. I felt really terrible sha.”
Zaman (M)
Abuja, FCT.
“He cheated on me with my then best friend. Yes, I actually caught them in the act. This is someone that I was prepared to die for and was sure he’ll do the same. He never mistreated me, showed me love, bought me stuff. He was even my first. Lol… We experience a lot as we grow, right?”
Amaka (F)
Ghana
“Had a whole other wife and family with some other girl. My heart right now ehn… I’m not even pained no more, just numb. It’s been three years already.”
Beth (F)
Lagos
“Went through his phone and saw his chats with some other girl. Apparently, I wasn’t the only one the dude was f*cking. Took my L home, cried, and yes, I’m still with him. Don’t ask.”
Mitchelle R. (F)
Lagos
“Saw her wedding card in a friend’s status. He screenshotted it and sent it to me with the caption, ‘no b ur babe be this?’”
Mark (M)
Benin City
“She told me I was her first. Went through her friend’s phone and saw a nude pic of her. Asked her about it (she’s never sent me THAT nude) and she flat out denied it, that she doesn’t even take nudes. (I didn’t show her the pic). Another day, saw a video of her kissing a guy in one of my guy’s friend’s phone. (Wasn’t going through it, we were just talking and it came up. Apparently she’s his ex). Called my girl over and used style to ask her about it, she denied again.
So I told my guy to tell his friend to send the video over. I showed it to her and you won’t believe this babe started crying. I just stood there. We’re no longer together.”
Segun (M)
Abuja
“Snubbed me.”
Chiomaxoxxo (F)
Nigeria
“Raped me. Although we were dating at the time, and we had sex occasionally. That particular day, I really was tired, but he didn’t even listen. I broke up with him after that.”
Fave (F)
Nowhere
“We were together for 6 months, everything seemed perfect at first. Then the fourth month I wasn’t sure anymore. I did my best for him, cause I sincerely cared so much about him, but he kept torturing my emotions by being emotionally unavailable for a while, then finally broke up with me just when I had a surgery and was bed ridden. Lol, terrible yeah? But I have forgiven him… just that some things are too hard to forget and sometimes, I wonder why someone could act so inhumanly towards someone who did them no wrong.”
Kavod (F)
Benin, Nigeria
“She lied to me. I found out the money I had been sending her, she wasn’t using it for any school issue but for wigs and clothes. Also, she collects money from her yahoo guy friends and when I get angry, she tells me they’re nothing and I’m being insecure. We dated for six months.”
Theo (M)
Port Harcourt
“The worst thing my partner has done to me was emptying my acct without my consent. I gave him my ATM card to help me run some transactions. Then, the debit alert I received was so shocking that I had to rest myself so that I wouldn’t collapse…. But I am glad I survived. I have learnt my lesson though…Big time.”
Eliz (F)
Cyprus
“Canceled a date after I had finished dressing… I cried ehnnn😭”
Monalisa Iyase (F)
Benin City
“She broke up with me with the ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ line. Still single, in peace, now, by God’s grace.”
Gee (M)
Nigeria
“I’ve not really been in a serious committed relationship.”
Guzzman (M)
Nigeria
“Well, you would be surprised if you found out that sometimes the people that you commit to emotionally and more can hurt & blackmail you with the same things you shared about yourself at the baby stage of the relationship. My boyfriend found out that I had a threesome with his bestfriend and another guy in church that we were all friends with. Even though I did it in the past before becoming seriously involved with him. He found out, and I apologized and promised that I had turned a new leave.
Three months later, we’re married now, and I’m convinced that my boyfriend, now turned husband, does not have any bit of forgiveness in his heart towards me. It’s almost like he married me, and I turned out to be beneath his expectations as a wife. I don’t know. I have tried my best but it’s been only four months into our marriage, and this man keeps haunting me with the mistakes of my past.
If I wash the plates and break one by mistake, he’d angrily start complaining and make reference to my past, that I am an ashawo, and he made a big mistake marrying me. If I ask for money to take care of house bills, he’d tell me to go and meet my innumerable boyfriends (we’re married for fuck sakes). This same man that begged me to be his babe, and confessed that he’d love me for the rest of my life is the same one acting like a child in this manner.
I want to hate him so much but I can’t. I love him, and he’s so good with sex too. Now, I’ve not even been able to enjoy my honeymoon, and my husband is already acting like he regrets my very existence in his life. It hurts when you confide in your partner and he/she takes advantage of your trust, to hurt you. Not like he’s a saint himself ooo. If I begin to reveal the evil things he has done himself in the past, you’d know he has no right to be judging me. I just want to be happy! Sighs.
Ladies abeg if you don’t want to regret your life, if a man asks you about your past, abeg just shut up. Men can’t handle the truth, no matter how manly they often claim to be. Omo I seriously need help from this situation. Please keep me Anon.”
Anonymous (F)
Lagos State
“My babe and I had a big fight and she refused to pick up my calls or reply to my text for 2 weeks!!! That was the height, I could not understand how somebody who professed to love me would attempt to stay away just because we had a trivial fight. It was so painful to realize I was dating someone with very bad emotional intelligence. One day, she called me and apologized and promised that she still loved me. I was happy and we reconciled.
A few days afterward, we went out on a date, and we were scrolling down a sidewalk. That’s how my babe gave a guy that was toasting her, her number in my presence! That day, I was so mad I began to question all of my life decisions and forcefully ended the relationship. No one who was that emotionally insensitive and disrespectful would make a good wife. I broke up, and it was such a demeaning experience.”
Tracy (F)
Lagos State
Wow, that’s all I can say. Well, like I said earlier, the dating world is fun sometimes, not so much others. However, who is ever going to pass up a chance at finding love, right? Afrolady sincerely hopes you all, especially our beautiful ladies, find someone worth going the extra mile for.
Also, please, like we always emphasize in some of our articles, if you’re not finding the love and peace you so richly deserve in your relationship, LEAVE!!! There are a million and one people out there just waiting to love you, if only you’ll learn to love yourself in the meantime.
Happy Weekend!!!
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