17 Real Stories on How Religion Has Shaped People’s Lives
Religion is one of the most powerful forces shaping human life. It influences our values, decisions, relationships, and even our worldview. For some, it provides comfort, guidance, and a sense of purpose. For others, it has been a source of struggle, conflict, or change.
To explore how religion has shaped people’s lives and its impact on their person, we asked 17 people a simple but profound question: “How has religion affected you?” Their answers reveal a mix of devotion, doubt, transformation, and personal growth. Some found peace in their faith, while others wrestled with its complexities.
Here are their raw, honest, and deeply personal stories.
“Religion has made me believe less about religion. It is like its own catalyst that has driven me from itself. Now I cling more to humanitarian service than the doctrines’ religion set.”
PD (M)
Nigeria
“I’ve undergone a significant shift in my perspective. Previously, I wasn’t deeply invested in religion, but now I’ve become a firm believer. My faith has profoundly impacted my daily life, influencing my actions, behaviour, and worldview.”
Dexter (M)
Nigeria
“It has affected me in so many ways. In regards to my beliefs and my actions. Imagine a world without religion and see chaos.”
Juju boy (M)
Nigeria
“I become indifferent as the days go by about religion, so many questions but probably too cautious to ask out of the precaution of being judged or seen as a sinner, so I keep it to myself.
But in all religion in a way has kept me in check, many actions not taken due to religion, both positive and negative.”
Zincochu (M)
Lokoja, Nigeria
“Not knowing what to think!!! I’m not sure if what I hold sacred and valuable is the right thing, or if it’s probably that of the other.
The contradictions in religion make it almost impossible to choose!
Imagine meeting a ‘MusChris’ ”
Coy (F)
Nigeria
“Breaking Free: The Nigerian Christian and the Burden of Approval
Growing up Nigerian, identity is often shaped by community, culture, and faith. From a young age, many of us are taught that respect, obedience, and societal validation are essential. As Christians, this is further reinforced by doctrines of humility, service, and sacrifice. While these values are noble, they can sometimes morph into an unhealthy need for constant approval—from family, church, and society.
The Pressure to Please
In Nigeria, there is an unspoken rule: your success is not just your own—it reflects your family, your upbringing, and even your faith. Every decision, from career to relationships, is scrutinized. As Christians, the pressure intensifies; we are expected to be “examples,” constantly living up to moral expectations set by both religious leaders and cultural norms. This often leads to a mindset where pleasing others becomes more important than personal growth or authenticity.
The Cost of Seeking Approval
Living for approval can be exhausting and limiting. It fosters:
- Fear of Authenticity – The constant worry of disappointing others can make us suppress our true feelings, desires, and even beliefs.
- Spiritual Burnout – Christianity is about a personal relationship with God, but when faith is driven by external validation, it becomes a performance rather than a journey of grace.
- Lack of Personal Fulfillment – Decisions made to satisfy others rarely lead to true happiness. The weight of expectations can lead to regret, resentment, and even anxiety.
Breaking Free
The need for approval is deeply ingrained, but it is not a life sentence. Breaking free starts with:
- Understanding Your Worth – God’s love is unconditional. Your identity should not be tied to the opinions of others.
- Setting Boundaries – Not every expectation must be met. It’s okay to say no.
- Redefining Success – Success is not just about meeting societal standards but about living in alignment with purpose and authenticity.
- Embracing Growth – Mistakes and setbacks do not define you. Learning to navigate life on your terms strengthens both faith and character.
Conclusion
A Nigerian Christian who constantly seeks approval risks losing their true self in the process. Faith should be liberating, not a prison of expectations. True peace comes when we live not for the applause of people but for the purpose God has placed in us.”
Phemzy (M)
Nigeria
“Religion is somehow the bane of my existence. I was born into a Christian family, but sometimes when I see other supposed Christians practising what they shouldn’t, I shudder. Religion has spoiled a whole lot of things and I have been a victim to religious extremists.”
Helen (F)
Nigeria
“Religion has been a complex part of my life. It taught me valuable lessons, but I’ve come to realize that spirituality is a personal journey. I’ve found my path, embracing the unknown and finding meaning in my own way.”
Elijah (M)
Lagos
“Positively!”
Banju (M)
Lagos State
“For me, religion has shaped my perspective of life, influencing my values, decisions, and sense of purpose. It has provided me with a moral framework, a source of comfort during difficult times. However, it has also challenged me to question, reflect, and grow in my beliefs. Whether through personal faith or interactions with others, religion has played a role in shaping my identity and the way I view and judge people.”
Shudi (M)
Nigeria
“Great!”
Obo guy (M)
Nigeria
“It has shaped me into the things I like, I do, and places I go to…”
GeePee (M)
Benin City
“It has shaped me into who I am today.”
Thompson Omons (M)
Nigeria
“Religion has not taken much negative toll on me. I am a person of faith (Christianity) and I was mentored properly (but not at the beginning stage) in my Christian journey. Before accurate mentorship, I used to carry out some ‘Christian practices’ I didn’t understand or those I didn’t understand the building basis for practising. But now based on my accurate knowledge of my faith, I can say that ‘religion’ has helped me to see God in the light of how He wants me to. It has also helped me to be a better human in my interpersonal and social life.”
Ehis (M)
Nigeria
“Religion… hmm.. personally, if you ask how God has affected me, I’ll say I cannot do without Him. He is my very being, essence and identity. He is my Father, literally my Everything.
However, for religion, I’ve encountered nothing but liars, selfishness, vain people disguising themselves to be good, money-hungry men, sex-starved men with no relationship with the Holy Spirit… let me just stop here.”
Lee Lee (F)
Nigeria
“Good tbh. I’ve found home, hope and acceptance in religion, something I had searched for in every other place. God is good!”
Ese (F)
USA
“For me, not so much. But I’ve seen testimonies, guys detransitioning into girls, gays regaining their senses back, identity crises being resolved, the sick rising to walk, etc, some on SM, some RL. So, I’ll say it’s just so-so.”
Anonymous (F)
Nigeria
Religion is deeply personal, yet its impact extends beyond individual beliefs. From shaping moral values to influencing major life choices, it can be a source of strength, division, enlightenment, or even pain. The stories shared here highlight the diverse ways people experience faith—some embracing it, others questioning or even rejecting it.
No matter where you stand, one thing is clear: religion leaves a lasting imprint. Whether it builds, challenges, or transforms, in relationships, families, career or personal growth, it continues to shape the human experience in ways both seen and unseen.
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