15 People Share With Us An “I Deserve Better” Moment In Their Relationship
Relationships are oftentimes filled with ups and downs. One moment it’s butterflies and sugar, another it’s weird lemons thrown at you. Incidents occur that just leave you questioning your self-worth, pride and even relevance in the relationship. On this episode of Afrogist, the question poses itself: Have you ever had an “I deserve better” moment in a relationship? What was it?
Here are the responses we got.
“He wakes up and the first thing he’s doing is rolling his weed to have a smoke. I’m sure my clothes reeked of smoke during that period. Very unhealthy period of my life. Lost weight like kilode. Kept begging him to stop smoking but it only ended in fights. Thank God I’m out now.”
Abcdef (F)
Lagos, Nigeria
“I realized I deserved better when I found out that he had moved on, and gotten a new girlfriend. I felt the chills and realized that even I deserve to move on and make my life better. No need crying over spilled milk. It’s his loss, eventually. I deserve better, even though I’ve dedicated over 5 years into this relationship. I deserve better, truly.”
Tracy (F)
Lagos
“I really wish there was a chance to use a voice note because words and sentences alone will not do justice. But long story short, I decided I deserved way better than being ignored for months(malice), being blamed for something that isn’t my fault and being treated like I was worth nothing. Omo I Japa ooo. Imagine having a man tell you he loves you but will have the heart to not talk to you for months… I couldn’t take it anymore.”
Claire (F)
Benin City
“When I had an argument with my ex during the weekend and he ended it with “Let’s talk on Thursday”. I just knew that I had suffered!”
Blessing (F)
Lagos
“He had spent some days with me in school and I thought it would be romantic. I left him at home to attend classes, only to come back tired and the first thing he told me was that he was hungry, I should enter the kitchen and cook.”
Vee (F)
Abuja
“No… I haven’t.”
Sam (M)
Benue, Nigeria
“She rarely calls & I began to feel like the relationship is one-sided; I’ll send text messages but she won’t reply; whenever I complain, she takes it as an avenue to accuse me of not loving her.”
Introvert (M)
Nigeria
“We dated for almost a year but I tried so hard to keep it going..he never communicated, he could go days without speaking to his “girlfriend” and he would be so comfortable..said he wasn’t the type who called but I thought the reverse word be the case with me..anyways it got to a point I knew I deserved better so I had to end things.”
Jovani (F)
“When he started staying late nights, preferring to stay out than to stay home with me, stopped giving me breakfast in bed, stopped talking about issues we may or may not have. when he got used to my presence and my love.”
Anony12 (F)
Lagos
“Yes, Definitely Yes. He stopped whistling when I walked out of the bathroom. It’s the little things, guys.”
Manny (F)
Benin
“Banned me from touching his phone. In his words, “projecting my insecurities on him.” Yeah… But he can check mine.”
Ola (F)
Abuja
“She told me point blank, if I don’t like her dressing that way, that’s my problem. Apparently, in a relationship, it’s only the girl’s feelings and wants that should matter. This is someone I don’t hesitate to change a habit or something she doesn’t like.”
LK (M)
Lagos State
“He shoved me off when I was trying to prevent him from going out because I was angry.”
Lola (F)
Osun State
“Travelled to go see him because he was sick. Met a girl in his apartment already taking care of him. Had to spend the night in the sitting room of my supposed boyfriend’s house, while she slept in his room. Apparently, she’s his cousin (I couldn’t go back that day as where I was coming from was far, plus I kind of wanted to see where it was going). Lol.”
Bbay (F)
Delta State
”Told me to get down from the car in the middle of the road. We were having an argument about how girls are not slaves to their husbands just because of marriage. Thought it was a joke. Baba was serious.”
Sera22 (F)
Edo State
Well, according to ourmindfullife,
“the moment that you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do.”
Another one says, “if they’re not making you glow, glow alone.” There’s no relationship, whether friendship, familial, romantic or otherwise that is worth your sadness or tears, NONE. Just a point to note.
Anyway, have you ever had an “I deserve better” moment in a relationship? Feel free to share them with us in the comment section below.
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